Secrets to Developing More Compassion for Yourself


compassionSecrets to Developing More Compassion for Yourself

Hi reader’s, today’s post is secrets to developing more compassion for yourself. Compassion is a funny thing. It’s something we’re easily and more likely to give to others than we do to ourselves. Recent psychological studies are confirming the wisdom that has long been taught in Buddhism and other traditions, that developing more compassion for yourself will make you happier and more successful at reaching your goals. Whatever your spiritual beliefs, there are some benefits of self-compassion.

Let’s talk about benefits for having more compassion for yourself. The first benefit is you’ll experience greater happiness. Self-compassion means valuing yourself and treating yourself well. You’re bound to feel better when you remove negative self-talk and become a better friend to yourself. You’ll also accomplish your goals more easily. There’s no need to criticize yourself to eliminate bad habits. Accept your flaws and focus on action plans that are realistic to you. If you break your diet, start again with the next meal. If you miss out on an opportunity, prepare yourself for when another one comes up.

You’ll become more resilient. Accept that life is full of ups and downs. Take them in stride or be derailed by self-pity. You’ll bounce back faster when you realize that challenges and setbacks are as inevitable as rainy days, especially if you live where I live in Portland, Oregon. You’ll feel more motivated. See, when you learn to value yourself, you’ll feel more committed to making investments in your future and your business. Giving yourself the freedom to make mistakes reduces the anxiety that holds you back from trying new things.

You’ll also feel more connected with others. The philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer suggested that we call each other, “my fellow sufferer.” When we realize that we all just want to be happy, but we often need to become more skillful at creating happiness, we recognize how much we have in common with everyone around us. You’ll express more compassions towards others. If you’re gentle with yourself, you’re more apt to carry that mindset into your interaction with loved ones and strangers. You’ll be more mindful of the challenges we all face and have a stronger desire to help others.

Now here are some methods for developing more compassion for yourself. Number 1, dispel the myths about self-compassion. You may associate being gentle with being lazy, but compassion, you’re channeling your time and energy into constructive activities rather than beating up on yourself. Take charge of your emotions. Accepting disappointments as a part of life enables you to remain more at peace. You can accept your true feelings without letting them overwhelm you.

Change your self-talk. We sometime … better frame of mind with meditation or some soft music. Maybe you treat yourself to something nice. Just like you would bring a meal over to a sick friend, look for ways to be your own benefactor. Brew a cup of your favorite tea or commiserate with yourself if you get stuck in heavy traffic. Don’t always reward yourself with food, however, or you can end up growing your waistline as well as your compassion.

Surround yourself with positive role models. If you feel like you’ve been conditioned to be harsh with yourself as the only way to get results, you may need to surround yourself with reminders to stay on your new path. Observe people who seem compassionate and adapt their methods to your own situation. Read books or take a workshop on compassion too. Having self-compassion will lead you towards success. Now, so that you can become more adept at overcoming difficult situations, when you learn to cherish yourself and comfort yourself, practicing self-compassion will bring you greater peace of mind and closer to your life goals.