I think that there’s a crisis of confidence out there. I’ve been getting a lot of comments recently from people that are saying things like, “I don’t have the confidence to do that. I don’t have that confidence in my graphic design skills. I don’t have the confidence with my clients when I’m presenting.” There is this crisis of confidence. So I wanted to share some ways that you can boost your confidence, boost your self-esteem. So here are nine ways that you can be more confident starting today.
1: Build confidence
Confidence comes by doing. Confidence is a product of doing something over and over and over. Confidence doesn’t come, doesn’t show up the first time you try something. In fact, the first time you try something, chances are it’s going to suck a little bit. The fifth time it might be a little better. 20th time it might be approaching good. And over time, that’s how you build confidence. No one goes into something new with confidence. Confidence is built.2: Don’t compare yourself to others
You want to set your ruler of success today. You want to start today and say, “Today I’m going to be 1% better at something.” And if you’re 1% better at something every day, at the end of a year, you’re going to be 365% better at it. Confidence comes from repetition, and incremental change in small increments really, really helps, and that’s how you build confidence. It happens over time.
3: Just show up
90% of success is just showing up. You want to show up for your business, you want to show up for your business partners, you want to show up for your significant other. You want to show up for your family. Just showing up and doing your best and trying to learn and trying to improve will build confidence over time. So give yourself a pat on the back for just showing up.
4: You have to celebrate your accomplishments
You want to take a moment, no matter how big or how small the accomplishment was, you want to take a moment and celebrate it. I do something that’s really kind of silly, but it actually works, which is I actually physically pat myself on the back and say, “Great job,” when I win a new client, have a great presentation. It establishes a level of congratulations that injects itself into your psyche over time and it really helps to build confidence. It’s very easy to lose perspective or just move from one thing to another, we’re all moving so quickly, to not take a step back, to take a moment and appreciate when you actually accomplish something. So celebrate your accomplishments.
5: Learn something new.
Whenever you learn a new skill set, whenever you add a level of capability to your war chest, it will make you more confident. So by going out and training and trying something different and learning something new, it will add value to you professionally and it will build your confidence.6: Exercise
By building your strength physically, getting out and moving your body, increasing your muscle tone, increasing your endurance, it has an effect on you emotionally. Exercise is one of the best ways to feel more confident. It will give you more energy. It will give you more stamina. And I guarantee you, it will reflect on everything that you do.
7: Eliminate negative people out of your life
Negativity is like a flesh-eating disease. You want to be surgical about how you cut negativity out of your life. You want to surround yourself with people that you admire, people who are positive, people who have what you want, people who you can emulate in their success and their activity and how they go about their life. If you are surrounding yourself with negative people, it is going to do nothing but erodes your confidence and bring you down.
8: Help others
By helping others, it will add to your self-esteem, it will add to your self-confidence. By being of value and passing on energy, positive energy, things of value to other people and helping them succeed in their lives and in business, it will make you feel better about yourself. There’s a great quote by a marketing expert named Zig Ziglar, and I’ve said this before in previous videos, but it’s, “You can get everything you want out of life if you help other people get everything they want out of life.” By helping other people, it will boost your self-esteem. It will boost your confidence by lifting other people up and helping them be successful, it will help you be successful.And in concert with that, you want to give compliments freely. Now, you like getting compliments, right? It helps you feel confident, it helps you feel better about yourself, has more self-esteem. By giving compliments to other people, it does the same thing for them and it actually reflects on you and your psyche and will make you feel better about yourself. So number eight, help others. It will really increase your self-esteem and your self-confidence.
9: Act confidently:
I know it sounds kind of silly, but there’s this phrase that says, “Fake it till you make it.” And I’m not saying fake being confident, but there’s a TED video by a woman named Amy Cuddy. It’s very well known. And she talks about the power pose, where she talks about taking a physical stance, standing upright with your chest out for two minutes. And they’ve actually done studies and found out that this actually makes people have higher self-esteem and feel more confident for a period of time. So there’s an idea of taking a physical stance, raising your voice, having a point of view, holding your head up high, which will actually make you feel more confident. The more you do this, the more you act confident, over time, the more confident you will be, the more comfortable you will be with being confident. So that’s it. I hope you enjoyed this blog post on nine ways to boost your self-confidence.